Report
of the Claridge House Residential Conference, November 4-6
Living Well, Dying Well.
Each of the five speakers responded to the title in their own
way, and we also spent time sharing our experiences and insights
in groups. Here are summaries of the talks:
“Why Does a Poet write and a Painter paint?” - David
Britton
David Britton attempted to answer the questions – “Why
does a painter paint, and a poet write?” - and to relate
the answers to the perennial theme of the After-life. He admitted
to finding both tasks difficult, in that most painters and poets,
including himself, find it very hard to say, and just as hard
to provide a more general rationale. But he found a useful clue
about the act of painting in what the Orthodox theologian Bulgakov
said about Greek sculpture and about Dancing. “Somewhere
in the depths of the Soul, everyone feels themselves to be an
'Endymion', with a light, harmonious and beautiful body, of
the kind that shines through in Greek sculpture or the plastic
fluidity of dance...” When a painter gets one of those
creative shocks that signal the strong need to paint, it is
as though both the subject out there, and the painter himself
or herself, are revealing aspects of that 'subtle body' which
the Eastern religions and the occult traditions have discovered,
and which Bulgakov is referring to. It should go without saying
that not even a representational painter is doing a photographic
copy of nature. What then is going on when a landscape painter
senses something that is both in this world, yet, more importantly,
seems to extend beyond it? It is precisely this magical extension
that seems to be the source of the shock, and the thing that
drives the painter to paint it would therefore seem to be a
partial revelation of a part of another world.
In relating it to the 'subtle body' of the great traditions,
David wanted to connect it to the bodily aspect of the After-life
- the bodily aspect of the human person, and also to the form
of the environment of whatever heaven it belongs to. The beauty
of the mathematical relations pursued by genuine abstract painters,
points to another aspect of a heavenly world. Many of the earliest
abstract painters in the West explained themselves by reference
to Plato and Plotinus and Swedenborg, sensing an abstract realm
that actually existed somewhere, not only in the subjective
mind of man on earth.
In emphasising the physical side of the act of painting, David
had no wish to deny that the greater presence is nevertheless
the Soul. Conversely, in stressing the spiritual inspiration
of the very finest poetry, he did not want to deny to poetry
the ability to do some of the things, though in a very different
way, that painting does. However, he did want to maintain that
painting is at its strongest when most cheerful and joyous in
a quite earthy sense. He gave it as his opinion that it does
not perform well in attempting the tragic aspects of existence.
But the tragic sense, and that which points beyond tragedy,
is the special province of poetry, and especially of the poetic
drama of Shakespeare and others. Aristotle, as is well known,
spoke of a “purging by pity and by terror”. The
source of human tragedy in its many forms on earth needs little
explanation, but the source of what points beyond tragedy in
poetry is mysterious. One would have to say that the true poet's
inspiration is in fact a deep religious experience, coming from
a high level of another world, coming perhaps from that 'Communion
of Saints' where a tremendous joy is the substance of life.
The true poet recognises a strange powerful rhythm sounding
within when a major inspiration begins to nag at him. This could
be the rhythm of that heaven of Communion, as modified by the
conflict of the mere earthly poet as he tries to blend it with
his and the earth's troubles and hopes and dreams. The outcome,
in a true poem, is a heightened language in a special rhythm.
When properly read, that is to say, aloud, it can open the other
world to the listener. It can make the hair rise on one's head,
as Housman wrote, and it frequently moves people to tears. As
Hassan says in Flecker's play of that name – “ I
have seen butchers bury their great faces in their hands”,
when listening to 'the epic of Antari' recited to a great crowd
in Baghdad. Such is a poetic culture, and the allowing of emotions
and the spiritual sense. Would that we had one here, in place
of the revolting facetiousness and defence against true feeling
that is the current English norm.
Early Friends and the “Ministry of Dying”
On Saturday morning David Britton gave a short presentation
on early Friends' 'Ministry of Dying' and quoted from a Pendle
Hill pamphlet.* This was both a ministry of the living to those
who were dying, in the form of family and other support, and
also, and just as importantly, a ministry of the dying to those
left on earth. The dying were regarded as having a special access
to spiritual wisdom, and actual experience of some of the conditions
of the next world. There can of course be no doubt that early
Friends absolutely took for granted that there was a next world.
Friends recorded the dying words, and other circumstances of
a death-process, and these were published in Collections called
'Piety Promoted', for general use. These then formed a part
of the spiritual life of Friends. Learning to 'die to the world'
was practised as a lifetime discipline, as a preparation for
death, and as a channel to wisdom in the present. The simplicity
and matter-of-factness of their attitude to death and the After-life
is impressive, and something we should learn from.
*“A Song of Death, Our Spiritual Birth – A Quaker
Way of Dying” Pendle Hill Pamphlet 340.
By Lucy Screechfield McIver . Pendle Hill publications, 338,
Plush Mill Road, Wallingford, Pennsylvania, 19086-6099, USA..
Two quotations from the pamphlet:
Springette Penn, the young son of William Penn, said when dying:
“my I looks another way where the truest pleasure is …..all
is mercy dear father; everything is mercy.”
Richard Hubberthorne: “This night or tomorrow night I
shall depart hence…….do not seek to hold me, for
it is too strait for me; and out of this straitness I must go,
for I am wound into largeness.” (strait in the sense of
narrow. Ed.)
The Life and Work of Elizabeth Kubler Ross Jennie Spence
Elizabeth was born in Switzerland. Endeavouring to assert her
strong individuality as one of triplets, she found her early
life “awful” and felt that it gave her the grit
and determination that was the hallmark of her character. She
was often ill as a child and had poor health throughout her
life but her indomitable spirit always shone through.
When she left school in 1942, her father wanted her to start
work in his company as a secretary. Elizabeth strenuously resisted.
She wanted to be a doctor and, cutting herself off from him,
took a job as a maid and later went on to work as a hospital
laboratory technician.
In 1944 she was drawn to work with refugees, wanting to go
to countries which had been ravaged by war. She showed incredible
bravery working in Poland and was later smuggled out, dramatically
and dangerously, in a box. During this period of her life she
often worked alongside Quakers.
Eventually, reconciled with her father, she began to train
as a doctor in the 1950s. She had an experience of working in
a badly run psychiatric hospital and helped to improve things.
She noticed that doctors tended to avoid any patients who were
dying. They were forced to lie under bright lights and their
visitors were restricted to visiting hours. Elizabeth sat on
their beds and talked to them. She found that they craved honesty
and that if they could talk to another human being who cared,
they arrived at a point of acceptance of death.
Elizabeth broke new ground when she arranged for Linda, a young
girl of sixteen, who was dying, to speak about the experience
to medical students. The students were appalled and asked questions
about her physical condition, but Linda spoke to them about
how she felt.
Elizabeth identified the stages of acceptance of death, finding
that they were similar to the process of bereavement. She also
began to be aware of the existence of something after death,
finding that even the angriest people would relax a few moments
before death and have conversations with loved ones. The greatest
need at these times is for love.
Dr Raymond Moody’s pioneering book “Life after
life” was yet to be written and Elizabeth began collecting
cases of near death experiences with the help of a clergyman.
She was thrilled and astonished at the results.
Elizabeth worked with AIDs patients and wanted to start a children’s
hospice. She bought a farm which she called “Healing Waters”
for her hospice, but the local people were fearful of infection
and campaigned against it with letters and petitions. Instead,
Elizabeth started an adoption agency.
Elizabeth pioneered work with the dying throughout her life
and wrote several books. “On Death and Dying” is
read by mainstream health professionals but in “The Wheel
of Life”, her autobiography, Elizabeth sets out her less
accepted views and findings about death and the afterlife.
Elizabeth had paranormal experiences herself. Very ill as a
young child she formed a relationship with a dying child in
the hospital ward. She found that she and this child could communicate
with each other deeply without words. When she was a doctor
she was visited by one of her patients and had a long conversation
with her before suddenly realising that the patient had died
six months previously!
The talk produced a lively discussion. Jennie is an occupational
therapist and said that current hospital practice of care for
the dying is still not always good. Others agreed. Hospices
are much needed.
My Near Death Experience (NDE) and how it affected my life -
Elizabeth Angas
I was asked to expand on the account which I wrote for the
Anthology “The Not Unfamiliar Country”.* In this
I confined myself to an explanation of what I had “learnt”
during my NDE. So in the talk I filled in the factual details
and went on to indicate how the NDE (in 1979) has continued
to inspire the way I live and is still influencing it.
As a result of what I was “taught” during the NDE
I changed my whole life as I felt I had woken up as a new person
– woken up for the first time. I had a completely different
outlook on life so that I set about consolidating all the values
and beliefs I had received.
The NDE came about because I nearly died (died for 3 minutes
before being brought back to life). At the time I was a 44 year
old health professional/university lecturer who was ambitious,
selfish and materialistic. Perhaps this was the reason I needed
a karmic jolt – a peak experience to make me change! I
needed to “remember” that I have a meaning and purpose
for this earthly part of my journey – a reminder of my
raison d’etre. At the time I did not know anything about
NDEs or OBEs (out of body experiences). It was only later, when
I started reading, that I discovered what my experience was
called, and, on re-reading my notes, how similar it was to other
peoples. This includes the place where one finds oneself –
being in the presence of Love-Divine and experiencing a Life-Review.
In my case, the latter went back to my original incarnation
vows which I made before my moment of conception. So during
the life-review I was “shown” what I had achieved
but also that I still needed to go much further in order to
do my “true work” as a spiritual healer rather than
merely a nurse/psychologist. I was also “given”
a concept of Wholeness which I had not had before which made
me realise about health in a more holistic and integrated way.
To accompany the talk I had made a hand-out listing my various
life changes. One list gave the immediate after-effects of the
NDE, namely that I had learnt to die in order to truly live.
I had gained the insight that life is a preparation for learning
how to die well (i.e. for having a “good” death)
by living life to the full and no longer fearing death. It also
included the major changes I then made such as becoming a Quaker
pacifist, a conservationist and a vegan; whilst also learning
to just simply “be” in the here and now.
The second list was of the changes that were the ongoing effects
between 1982 and 2005. These resulted from my deepening discernment
of the leadings I was receiving from the Holy Spirit. They include
my ongoing “work” (now that I am retired from my
career) as an Autogenic Therapist (see www.autogenic-therapy.org.uk)
and a Quaker Spiritual Healer. They also include being led to
do a permaculture design course so I could start applying my
healing to the care of the planet.
The participants asked questions about the changes and my
gradual evolvement and what I now mean by “living life
to the full”. There was also discussion about the “dress
rehearsal” I had had about learning how to die well and
finding out that there is an After-life!
*”The Unfamiliar Country” (£2.00 including
p.p.) is available from Angela Howard at Webb’s Cottage,
Woolpits Road, Gt. Saling, Braintree, Essex., CM7 5DZ.
“Communications from Martin” - Angela Howard
Since my husband, Martin, died from cancer in December 2003
I have visited Paul Lambillion, a gifted and experienced healer,
channeller, and spiritual counsellor on several occasions. Paul
had given Martin two sessions of spiritual healing. The second
took place only two days before his death and I am sure it helped
him to make the transition as quickly and smoothly as he did.
Martin was one of the founder members of QFAS and had been
fully convinced of the reality of the after-life for many years.
A month after his death I visited Paul, and Martin communicated.
Though Paul does not call himself a medium, he is aware of beings
on other levels and Martin “popped through” (as
Paul describes it) to give convincing proof that he still continued
to be very much himself and was aware of the doings of myself
and his family on Earth. His individual sense of humour was
particularly in evidence!
In later communications, as I grew more confident and started
to ask questions, Martin explained about his transition and
how he was now occupied. This was the subject of my talk.
Briefly, Martin explained that his first impression after
he “died” was that he was in a kind of waiting room
and was met by his father and another man who he described but
who I could not identify. He then received some teaching from
a spiritual being and was also given a map to show him where
he had come from and what were the future possibilities. The
map was very significant as Martin was a planner and was always
happy and relieved if given a map to find his way around! He
explained that the newly arrived are received and given information
in a form which feels most natural to them.
Martin said that as soon as he died, though he had resisted
the idea of death while still on Earth, he realised that it
was absolutely the right moment for him to go. He was being
given the opportunity, he said, to create something beautiful,
and it was right for him to “move through” to do
this. We should not look at death as in any way the end, but
as a stepping through to a new level, equipped with all our
recent life experience.
His task now is to work with the spirit of the mineral kingdom
in the changes which are taking place on the planet. (He described
other things he is doing but this is his main work.) He finds
his new work “enthralling”, and he says there are
big changes coming which will be beneficial in the long term,
and that possibly new minerals may emerge from the “heat
of the planet”.
In his work life, Martin was a planner, and in retirement
he was a potter with a particular love of unusual glazes. As
he worked with minerals to create these, his life long interest
in geology was finding a new outlet. He says now that all that
he learned on Earth is combining to help him in his new task.
Perhaps we should not wonder too much when we feel the desire
to add a new a piece of knowledge or experience into our lives.
It may build towards helping us in our after-life work.
If you would like to see Martin’s communications in
more detail please send me a large s.a.e. or alternatively I
can send them to you as an email attachment. I hope they will
eventually appear on the website.
The Integration of the Two Worlds – Rosalind Smith
Ros said she found it very helpful to try and explain the
two worlds by pointing out that the vibrational rate is different.
When electronic voice phenomena occur, where recordings of words
or phrases appear inexplicably on tape, they usually have to
be slowed down before they can be understood. That is because
the vibrational rate of other dimensions is higher than our
own.
Ros believes that we all have our guardian angels; and that
if we ask for further understanding of spiritual things we will
receive it. There are many dimensions of which this material
world is but one. We are interacting all the time if only we
are aware of it, and music and poetry, art and the beauties
of nature, help to raise our vibrations so that we can do so
more easily. Messages or guidance that is meant for us, find
a channel to come through. Inspiration is there if we open ourselves.
The best way to access other worlds is through meditation. When
we meditate we go into silence and access the “now”.
There should be no scanning of the past or planning the future.
Through silence we can receive healing and listen for the still
small voice which will bring greater spiritual awareness. Although
meditation can help us to know ourselves better, to increase
creativity, to give us greater compassion, and to open our minds
so that we can bring help and healing to others nevertheless
we should go into meditation for no other reason than to be
in the presence of God. Other fruits will follow but we should
not actively seek them. The moment we think of the enlightenment
we want, we block it. Meditation should be a process of intention,
relaxation, (watch thoughts but try not to get embroiled), listening.
Flashes of insight often follow.
We did a simple but deep meditation with a leaf as a focus and
afterwards there was a discussion about the stress of modern
life and the need to de-clutter in order to clear our minds.
We tend to be over stimulated by the media, noise and other
intrusions. We need to learn to shut down some of these outside
influences which can knock us off course, so that we lose our
spiritual connection.
* * *
On Saturday evening we watched a video of a BBC 2 programme
entitled “Science and Séance” on the early
history of Spiritualism, which was well researched and much
more sympathetic than usual! And we had some circle dancing
led by Nick which was much appreciated.
Comments on the weekend were favourable. Here is one from Ann
Taylor, a newcomer to QFAS:
“Wonderful weekend. Although I had read over time the
subjects and ‘happenings’ discussed, for me it was
more valuable to hear from actual people who had the experiences.
“I was also reminded of various valuable spiritual practices
done in the past.
“Very well organised. Thank you. Very glad to renew my
meditation practice (somewhat lapsed) and to remember its importance.
I feel renewed spiritually and am going home with more clarity
for my personal path.”
Here is a suggestion for a future conference from Elizabeth
Angas who was a speaker:
“I feel there is an urgent need to try to overcome the
feelings of taboo in our Quaker Meetings. So could we have a
speaker (speakers) who could show us ways in which we could
do this? That is, help us to do effective outreach in this particular
area (about the after-life and psychic experiences.) The speaker(s)
would need to understand and be experienced in overcoming prejudice,
fear and disapproval in Quaker circles.”
* * *
Sources and Resources
Recent gleanings from the literature on survival by David Hodges
Since the publication of the second edition of my book Do We
Survive Death? almost two years ago I have sought to keep up
with new material on survival published both as books and on
the web. Details of some of the best of this material (in my
opinion) is offered here in the hope that it will be of value
to members of QFAS
Books.
Is There an Afterlife?:A Comprehensive Review of the Evidence.
David Fontana. O Books, Ropley, Hants., 2005. 496 pp., pbk.
ISBN 1-903816-90-4, £14-99 (but available for £10
from Cygnus Books).
Is There an Afterlife? is probably the best and most important
book on the evidence for survival to be published for several
decades. Professor Fontana is a highly-experienced psychologist
with 30 years involvement in survival research and with personal
experience across much of the field. It is not overstating things
to say he is a world authority on the subject. His book is an
extensive, authoritative and detailed survey of the best of
the evidence supporting survival and, although long, remains
very readable throughout. It should be on the bookshelf of every
serious student of the subject.
The Book of the Soul. Rational Spirituality for the Twenty-First
Century. Ian Lawton. Lawton Publishing, Southampton, 2004. 306
pp., pbk. ISBN 0-9549176-0-X, £15 (but available for £10
+ £2.40 p. & p. via author’s website - see below
- or direct from: Ian Lawton, P.O. Box 5743, Southend-on-Sea,
Essex, SS1 9AE).
Ian Lawton is an established author who is seeking in The Book
of the Soul to justify his concept of a rational spirituality.
Traditionally rational thought and spirituality have been considered
to be incompatible but Lawton considers that there is a great
deal of verifiable evidence available which enables us to develop
a rational, scientifically-based approach to concepts such as
the survival of the soul and its continuing reincarnation. On
the basis of the available, verifiable evidence for the soul,
he then goes on to develop what he calls a revolutionary view
of spirituality. The main body of the book consists of a review
of the evidence, and he then discusses how this can be integrated
with spiritual traditions to answer rationally many fundamental
questions. Personally I have found that his analysis of the
wide range of published data on past-life and inter-life reviews
(sometimes seemingly incompatible) to be very valuable; also
his re-intepretation of karma as a learning process rather than
a reward/punishment structure is a valuable insight. An important
book, well worth reading and thinking about what it has to tell
us.
Immortal Remains. The Evidence for Life After Death. Stephen
E. Braude. Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, Lanham, Maryland,
2003. 329 pp., pbk. ISBN 0-7425-1472-2, £16 from Amazon.
Stephen Braude is a professional academic, he is professor of
philosophy at the University of Maryland, and this is very much
reflected in his approach to an assessment of the evidence for
survival. It is by no means as easy a read as the two previous
books but it is a careful, objectively critical assessment of
the available evidence. Personally I feel that he makes too
much of the “super-psi” hypothesis as a reasonable
alternative explanation for much of the evidence, but he does
make pro-survival readers think much more carefully about their
assessment of the evidence and about the possible alternative
interpretations. He ends with the somewhat tentative conclusion
that: “... I think we can say, with little assurance but
with some justification, that the evidence provides a reasonable
basis for believing in personal postmortem survival.”
Websites
www.afterlife101.com This is an important website set up by
someone who, for professional and personal reasons, prefers
to work under the pseudonym of ŒAnchor. Probably the most
useful part of the site for most QFAS members will be the comprehensive
book-length description of the afterlife that has been transmitted
by spirit guides through Anchor’s wife, a gifted medium.
The book provides a detailed review of the cycle of spiritual
evolution - death, life in the spirit world, reincarnation,
life on earth and death again.
www.allan-kardec.org This site has been set up by the Allan
Kardec Educational Society (AKES) to publicise the life and
work of the Frenchman Allan Kardec (b. 1804). He was an educator
and philosopher who was probably the first person to systematically
investigate the widespread mediumistic phenomena which developed
in the mid-nineteenth century. The results of his studies were
published in 1857 in a volume entitled “The Spirits’
Book”. Long out of print this has been re-translated into
more modern language and published by AKES, and has been described
independently as “... probably the most comprehensive
definition of the afterlife that exists.” Kardec (a pseudonym)
also wrote four other books about the general subject of survival.
All his books, and others of a similar nature, are available
from the AKES via their website.
www.ianlawton.com As well as publicising his books (see “The
Book of the Soul” above) Ian Lawton uses his website to
promote his idea of rational spirituality - a rational evidence-based
spiritual worldview - which is directly connected to the survival
of the soul. He hopes to set up the Rational Spirituality Movement,
which at first would be a discussion group, based on the web.
Two other very important websites which I quoted in my book
are:
www.victorzammit.com Victor Zammit is a highly-qualified Australian
lawyer and psychic researcher whose long-standing site provides
much useful information. Its most important component consists
of a 117 page book analysing the evidence for survival from
a lawyer’s point of view and concluding that “...
the evidence taken as a whole constitutes overwhelming and irrefutable
proof for the existence of the afterlife.”
www.survivalafterdeath.org The International Survivalist Society
was founded to disseminate “... the scientific case for
survival on a global level”. It produces an excellent
website which provides a regularly changing variety of historical
material on, and evidence for, survival. One of the best sites
on the internet.
Another Useful Resource.
Earlier this year I discovered the Postal Lending Library, a
stock of about 1000 books covering the subjects of spirituality
and the paranormal. It was set up to make available a wide range
of material which is not frequently stocked by public libraries.
A significant proportion of the books in the library are specifically
about survival or related subjects. The PLL relies on donations
of books to extend its coverage and does not charge for the
service it provides, only asking that the cost of postage be
sent (as stamps) when ordering a book. Further details and lists
of books are available on: www.postallendinglibrary.org.uk;
or by writing to The Postal Lending Library, 17a Limekiln Road,
Bridlington, Yorks., YO15 2LX.
Future Events
QFAS Spring Conference
Saturday, May 6th, at St. Pancras Church Hall. Beth Allen, recently
retired from Friends’ House, will speak about her views
on the afterlife, and David Britton will continue his exploration
of early Friends’ attitudes to the afterlife by speaking
about Margaret Fell. Discussion in small groups.
QFAS Autumn Conference
Residential at Claridge House. Nov 10-12th. “Living Between
Two Worlds”. Facilitator: Ros Smith.
Gildas in Oxfordshire. A regular bi-monthly group has now been
established at the home of QFAS member, Maryrose Price. The
overall purpose is to enable and encourage spiritual growth.
Each day follows the pattern of channelled teachings from Ruth
White’s discarnate guide Gildas, group discussion, group
interaction with Gildas, personal exercises for spiritual growth
and the raising of consciousness. For further details contact
Maryrose Price, 10, Westland Way, Woodstock, Oxon, 0X20 1YF.
Tel: 01933 813662.
From “The Four Quartets” - T.S. Eliot
“…………………………………You
are here to kneel
Where prayer has been valid. And prayer is more
Than an order of words, the conscious occupation
Of the praying mind, or the sound of the voice praying.
And what the dead had no speech for, when living,
They can tell you, being dead: the communication
Of the dead is tongued with fire beyond the language of the
living.”
Is QFAS meeting your needs?.
While QFAS is building well as a Fellowship in which many of
us now know each other and meet regularly, there are other members
who are not able to come to conferences and who are maybe feeling
somewhat isolated. The committee has been considering from some
time whether we could send speakers to visit Meetings and we
feel in a position now to offer this, depending on distance
and availability of dates. In any case we would really like
to hear from you and perhaps receive a contribution for a future
newsletter. Do write to me (Angela) or Cherry Simpkin who will
be editing the next newsletter. Cherry has been away in New
Zealand and Australia so was not able to produce this edition.
The next newsletter is due in June. Please remember to renew
your membership subscription using the enclosed form.
I hope to send details about QFAS to Preparative Meetings in
Sussex and Surrey GM and Kent GM this Spring as part of our
ongoing publicity campaign. If you attend one of these Meetings
I hope you will be able to give support, and encourage interested
Friends to join the Fellowship.
All good wishes for Christmas and the New Year,
Angela Howard
Last Minute Squeeze In. We’ve just heard of a new book
by a Quaker
I Talked With Ghosts by Ruth Legg Trafford Publishing. 2005.
149 pp. ISBN 1-41206020-6. Available online www.trafford.com/05-0921
– or from Trafford Publishing (UK) Ltd., Enterprise House,
Wistaston Road Business Centre, Wistaston Road, Crewe, Cheshire,
CW2 7RP, tel: 0845 230 9601 These are ‘verbatim recordings
of coversations with discarnate entities who were lost in the
no-man’s-land of the spirit world’